Big Little Lies and The List
Spoiler alert, I'm going to talk about the "The Bad Mother" episode of Big Little Lies.
Stop reading now if you haven't seen it.
Bonnie (played by Zoë Kravitz) has been struggling since she pushed Perry (played by Alex Skarsgård) to his death in the first season. Not to promote violence, but oh boy could I understand her reaction to seeing Celeste (played by Nicole Kidman) being beaten. Yes, when you've been abused as a child, rage can be an issue.
In the episode Bonnie's mother has had a stroke and Bonnie is keeping vigil by her hospital bed. While she's sitting there, she begins to journal about killing Perry and her issues with her mother. Bonnie is recognizing all the affects her mother’s abuse had on her. This is a huge step in healing.
What's even better, Bonnie read her feelings and thoughts to her mother out loud. There is power in the spoken word. It puts your intent to move on out in the universe.
My father was dead when I journaled all the things I wanted to say to him. It was like emotionally vomiting. Journaling is a fantastic way to get those poisonous feelings out of your body and start moving on from the past. I wrote all my grievances down and addressed them to him out loud in my empty bedroom, but it still worked. How you feel impacts you physically. As I’ve mentioned before, check out Louise Hay’s book, Heal Your Body. She describes the physical ailment and the corresponding emotions. It’s fascinating to me and makes complete sense.
As always, I share my experiences in the hopes it helps others.